Never Show Weakness

Chris Larsen

08.12.21

Chris' take on vulnerability and connection in the workplace is fairly unique. He believes in never showing weakness, and never being friends with your team members.

Summary:

Chris’ take on vulnerability and connection in the workplace is fairly unique. He believes in never showing weakness, and never being friends with your team members.

Thuy

So, what you're saying really reflects also a self-awareness, and how critical is that for leaders?
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Chris Larsen

Yeah, super critical, and I think it's hard sometimes because one, the CEO or founder position is actually pretty lonely and people say that, right? It is, because you cannot be friends with the people on your team. I mean, you absolutely love your team, you're going through something as emotional as any kind of relationship in life, right? The stakes are super high, but you can never look at yourself as being their friend, right? You're doing them a favor by not being their friend, right? So, what does that mean? I think it means you cannot show weakness. Your team members, they don't want to see the leader weak, they don't want to see you breaking down. As much as that might be kind of a human thing, and I know you need to cut yourself some slack sometimes about understanding the stress you're going under, but you cannot show that to your team. What you need to show your team is yup, this is super hard and we are totally gonna make it, right? It's the facts and it's the famous Stockdale paradox is a great kind of business story about this prisoner of war in Vietnam, Admiral Stockdale, and he wrote a great book on it, In Love & War, it's a great sort of business book, but I think that's very accurate, right? It's facing the brutal facts about how hard it is, especially during those early periods but having the absolute faith that you're going to make it. So, if you're starting to whine and show your stress, and you can be a pessimist or something, that's just fatal, so you just can't do that. So, in that kind of environment, it's pretty hard to get kind of, you're kind of ignoring your own feelings in a way, so it is hard to both recognize kind of what stage you're at as a leader, as a founder, but also kind of having the Teflon and the iron suit where you're just, you have to be the strong leader, period. I just fundamentally believe that.