Superwoman Not Allowed

Nikole Collins-Puri

09.02.20

How do you set boundaries when you're a busy career woman and leader and wife and mom? According to Nikole, part of the problem is having unrealistic expectations in the first place. Her answer: Superwoman not welcome here!

Summary:

How do you set boundaries when you’re a busy career woman and leader and wife and mom? According to Nikole, part of the problem is having unrealistic expectations in the first place. Her answer: Superwoman not welcome here!

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You're a wife and mother, you have a five-year-old son. What what are some non-negotiables when it comes to family time?
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Nikole Collins-Puri

Well, you know, what I have really committed myself is to be a model for our staff and, of course, our girls. And again, because there is this perception that... of a superwoman, and that we have to do everything so well all of the time. And I don't subscribe to that. I will talk very blatantly that, like, sometimes I am rocking it like a CEO, and I'm like "Eeh" as a wife. And sometimes I'm, like, the best mom of the year. And then sometimes I'm "Eeh" as a CEO, because the reality is that when we subscribe to this superwoman (model), it's an unrealistic expectation that no one can ever meet. And if they meet it, it's not sustainable.

And so I am always very cautious about making sure I have boundaries. Learning how to cut it off for work. Being able to just be very honest is like, you know, my son has been home for the past three months. And the reality is, it's like I'm probably at a 70 percent capacity. Right? Mentally, to be able to focus on something is really challenging. When I have a five-year-old that doesn't have a sibling or a pet. Which, you know, the pet thing I'm working on. Never have to be in this situation again. I'm sure there's a story there. But it's like, it's just that, you know, he requires time and energy and focus. And the reality of me saying that I am trying to teach him his ABCs on top of, you know, meeting with funders and prepping for those meetings and being able to do both at a hundred percent is not reasonable. And I think that sometimes women try to, you know, meet that expectation and all you're going to meet is exhaustion.